Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Letting go

Noticed this on a colleagues desk today. 
"There are things we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go."

Interesting quote.

Accepting, learning and letting go- hmmm. 

Take death for example. 
We don't ever want it to happen, but it does. It's inevitable. You will always lose that loved one because of death. You 'don't want it to happen' but you have to 'accept' it. 
The precursor to the Death of a loved one sometimes requires you to 'know' certain things , maybe about the sickness they have and however much you 'don't want to know it' you are forced to 'learn' about it. 
And finally when they pass on no matter how difficult it is, and no matter how much you think you 'can't live without' them , you have to 'let them go'. 

It can apply with relationships as well. You have to accept , learn and let go because of choices you are forced to make and because of situations that arise and because the timing is not right. Although, In this case it's much more difficult than the death scenario because the other person could be living in the same town or working in the same work environment or is a part of a common group and the chances of contact could be so high. And with social media available, even without being in touch, the persons life is still there staring you in the face. And so even though accepting and learning may be possible to some extent, letting go is always a much much tougher task.
People say time is a great healer. And if you give it enough time you will pull through, you will automatically let go but it isn't that at all. Really, It's all about conditioning the mind to be able to let go.  Conditioning the mind by reading quotes such as these. 

Accepting, learning and letting go- hmmm.